What a Non-Ejaculatory Orgasm Feels Like- Male Orgasm Without Ejaculation

What does a non-ejaculatory orgasm feel like?

Men often ask me what they are like. Are they different from ejaculatory orgasms?

It’s important to know, as you may, or may not, be aware, men can have orgasms without ejaculating. They can have many orgasms without ejaculating. They can have powerful, full-body orgasms that are much more satisfying, in my experience, than ejaculatory orgasms. 

Why would you want to do this?

First of all, when a man ejaculates, there is a recovery period, a refractory period. The body has to recover because hormonal changes happen and the body loses energy with every ejaculation. If you think about it, it’s like when you’re having sex when you’re at maximum arousal, when you’re close to that point of ejaculation, you’re at a point of high energy, you’re pumping with energy and blood and then you ejaculate. How do you feel 20 seconds after that? You feel limp, tired, fatigued, Most men want to roll over and fall asleep. Some may even feel depressed after ejaculating because they’ve lost energy. It takes a lot of resources for the body to create sperm, so it’s not ideal for men to be ejaculating frequently. This does not mean that you need to limit the amount of sex you have. It just means you need to get in touch with your body and learn to have orgasms without ejaculating. Therefore you have complete choice over if, and when you’re going to ejaculate so you can last for much longer in bed, and most of all, you don’t have to experience that recovery period from an ejaculation if you choose.

There are many different types of non-ejaculatory orgasms that men can have. The most common type that people talk about is basically where you get to the point of no return, you hit the point where you start to go into that ejaculatory orgasm, but you squeeze the pelvic floor muscles and this causes spasms in the prostate area, you have that feeling of orgasm without ejaculation involved. This is not the main method that I practice or teach. In my experience this is still a relatively weak, very genital centered orgasm that is very short lived. I’m talking about a more energetic, full-body type of orgasm. It’s what’s known as a ‘valley orgasm’. This is quite different from the ejaculatory ‘peak’ orgasm. The peak orgasm is what 99% of men have only ever experienced. They’ve never experienced anything more than this explosive, genital centered orgasm that discharges their energy and only lasts 10-15 seconds maximum. It’s very short-lived. It is intense, but it’s short-lived and it drops your energy levels. You’re done after that.

The valley orgasm is different. It doesn't have as sharp of a peak. So it’s not quick, intense, and then over quickly. It doesn’t have that sharp beginning, short middle duration, and sharp finish. The valley orgasm is a bit more of a state of orgasm. It’s a constant state of a deep, full-body pulsation of energy. It starts out very subtle and is easy to overlook in the beginning. An important aspect of this to know, is that most men tend to overstimulate themselves during sex and sexual activity, even during masturbation, by thrusting too frantically, overstimulating the penis by over obsessing with sexual thoughts, and this causes sexual tension to build up quicker than your overall arousal does.

I’ll do my best to explain what the valley orgasm feels like. It’s hard to put into words because this is a much more energetic full-body experience. For me, getting into it requires a deep state of relaxation. It takes being aware of your arousal level and not getting too aroused too quickly. Again, men tend to have this porn conditioned approach to thrusting away frantically trying to reach this point of maximum pleasure, but that doesn’t give the body time to build up enough of a sexual charge to really have a fulfilling orgasm. So when I have these full-body orgasms I usually start to feel it in my belly area. There's a major energy center here known as the dan tien. It’s almost like a ‘butterflies in the stomach’ sensation. So imagine the feeling when you’re just about to ejaculate, there is a similar sensation but it’s actually in the belly center. This sensation starts to move throughout the entire body. So, i’ll start to feel it up my spine and in my heart center, which may start to pulsate as well. I’ll often start to feel it in my brain. My whole body is in this vibrating, pulsating, incredibly pleasurable sensation of energy and again, it builds much more slowly than the ejaculatory orgasm. It’s not just an explosion, then it’s gone. It really builds into it. It starts out very subtle. The first time I experienced this it actually kind of freaked me out. It was really intense. It has a very vulnerable, almost emotional type of quality to it. Especially with a partner who you are deeply connected to. It definitely requires trust and openness to experience this type of orgasm. There’s a certain emotional opening. My whole body starts to pulsate, I feel my energy running through my microcosmic orbit. It always feels a bit different. I’ve had it before where it’s felt very similar to that feeling again when you’re just starting to have that ejaculatory type of orgasm where it’s this intense pulsation of energy, but i felt it in my brain and in my heart center. Sometimes it almost feels like the energy is shooting out of my crown and expanding up into the universe. Oftentimes my awareness goes beyond my physical body. Sometimes I feel like I'm dissolving into my partner and I start to become very intuitive of what she’s thinking and feeling. It’s like our thoughts and feelings start to merge together. It’s like our bodies are merging together, which is what’s happening during sex, but when you both open up into this deep orgasmic exchange, it becomes very very intense. I’ve also had experiences where I felt like I was connecting into higher bodies around me. Connecting to the body of the earth, the sun, moon, and stars and just feeling that subtle sexual connection that’s pulsating throughout the universe. This is what happens when you start to get into these high energetic and orgasmic states. You start to resonate with higher forces. Your awareness expands and this is truly an experience of connection, of onesss that a lot of mystical traditions describe. You can get there with sexual cultivation. 

 So, it's a much different experience than the ejaculatory orgasm. For me, an ejaculation is very limited to the genitals. It’s intense but it really feels like something’s shooting out of my body and it’s almost excruciatingly intense versus the full body orgasm, which is a little more gentle, less rough around the edges, and doesn’t have that sharp onset. It's something that kind of starts to build and intensify.  I’ve had full body orgasms that lasted several minutes. Ten or even a hundred times more powerful than an ejaculatory orgasm. The major difference here is that there is no release of energy. I think one of the reasons that an ejaculation is so addicting for men. You release your energy. Your desire and sexual arousal is completely gone. You have no more desire. It’s almost like a numbness, almost like an opiate type of effect on men and they find that very addicting, especially when they’re stressed or have too much nervous energy, too much tension that they need to release. They use sex as a release. 

Here’s the difference between that and the non-ejaculatory orgasm. There’s no release of energy. The energy is just moving and building throughout your body and you’re exchanging it with your partner. It balances the energy out. It's not like there’s no sense of satisfaction at the end. I feel very, very satisfied after this type of orgasm and have no desire to ejaculate, but there’s not that release of energy. I am often feeling extremely energized after this experience. I feel very relaxed, open, connected, and creative. You often want to create something after this. You want to write a song, paint a picture, or just tell your partner how much you love and appreciate them. 

So these are the types of experiences that I've had with these orgasms. They are very healing, empowering, and life changing. It’s something that I hope every man in the world gets to experience.

If you want to learn more, be sure to grab my free ejaculation control guide here